The Real Killer of Amit Buddhiraja and Rinku Sachdeva

Here are the details of the case that rocked the nation.

http://www.telegraphindia.com/1080324/jsp/nation/story_9050236.jsp

Two lovely people in the prime of their youth, gone …. forever. The blogosphere is rife with rumours, allegations and what not. Some people are blaming Rinku for being an adulterous wife and others are blaming Amit for what they see as a jealous, possessive husband.

Unfortunately, both the camps miss the true picture. The real killer of Amit and Rinku is something else.

Amit did not have any option. Consider the situation. Your wife talking to her lover in your house and talking of filing a false harassment case against you, putting you and your family in jail, taking away your future and damaging you for your life ! What women don’t realize is that the unjust laws like the dowry law and Domestic Violence Law are pushing men towards the edge. I can tell you what Amit’s future would have been – He and his parents would have been behind bars due to the false dowry allegations that Amit alleges that Rinku was contemplating. Generally, husbands have to shell out anything from 5 Lakhs to 4 crores to the wife to “compromise” so that she takes the case back. That is when the husband had been a gentleman (like described by Amit’s colleagues). The threat of false accusations and seeing his family behind bars can push anyone to the brink. Add to that the infidelity (atelast perceived by Amit. We’ll never know whether he was right or wrong) by the wife. His future would have been destroyed. He and his family would end up penniless, humiliated and socially destroyed while Rinku would have ended up richer and would probably have led a normal family life with her lover (if one existed).

Who is to blame ? The Ultra feminist laws. Had the threat of a false case not been there, Amit would have probably thought of his future and who knows, maybe this tragedy could have been averted. But when your future is in jail due to a a cheating wife, the injustice gets to a man and he ends up taking law in his own hands.

We should be prepared to see many more Rinkus and Amits unless the laws are made fair and just.

God bless them both. They didn’t deserve to die.. just because of the travails and tribulations of marriage. Its the Law that killed them

I regret the loss of lives.

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15 Responses to “The Real Killer of Amit Buddhiraja and Rinku Sachdeva”

  1. reader Says:

    To the person who wrote this article,

    You seem to believe ‘whatever’ Amith had written in the suicide note. The note itseems was very well written and was not written in haste. Clearly Amith needed some therapy/help. It is also possible that he had it all planned it for a while. Isn’t it possoble that he was a sociopath? Even after killing her, he didn’t leave her alone in death. He had to rationalize his actions and ruin her reputation?
    An abuser can given any number of excuses for why he yells, beats, kills, hates,hurts etc., and can do it very convincingly. Unfortunately we don’t know the wife’s side of the story.
    May their souls reast in peace!

  2. Moema G. Says:

    I agree with article…the mere dowry harassment file scare is proving to be enough to elicit this kind of radical action… The country is living in a permanent disturbance of public order thanks to the anti-dowry act.
    Curbing dowry harassment is necessary, but there must be another way…

  3. kkp Says:

    I can understand what Amit and many other men who want to save their marriages go through.

    Indian system is such that it awards a wife with all monetary and other rewards by allowing maintainence and alimony and access to hoorendous laws in case the husband does not comply by her wishes(which may include giving divorce or not giving divorce). If the husband objects to any of these, he and his entire family is sent to jail and they are dragged by corrupt police and judicial system for decades while the wife after receiving alimony is happy as ever and after receiving the ransome asked for she can go and settle with any other boy next in line to be fooled.

    On other hand there is no Govt support or any other kind of emotional, monetary or legal support the man has in case he wants to divorce his wife for any genuine reason.

    I pray that Amit’s sould rests in peace.
    Amit I salute your love for your wife and i can understand how hard it must have been for you to take that extreme step.
    People will never have the willingness and time to peep into your innocent emotional heart, all what it wanted was love in return from his own wife.

    May God bless you.

  4. Ankush Says:

    KKP/ and all people supporting his comments,

    Saluting Amit is like joining the gang of idiotic men with a foolish mindset similar to that of a murderer. I am a guy, and please know that its not just Indian laws that side with women on divorce/ dowry (though dowry seems concentrated issue in Asia and Middle East), all international laws aswell give more power to women. AND WHY???? Cause men have abused women for generations and have gotten away with it, time to protect women. No harm in that. We men are paying for the misdeeds committed by the men of the past, and men who are doing it in the present, time to FESS UP AND FACE IT. We are also paying for the misdeeds of women who support the actions of dowry and participate in them with their husbands.

    As far as women misusing the dowry allegations, there are always few bad apples in the society who will exploit this avenue, and Rinku paid a heavy price for it without participating in it. I know for a fact that, AMIT EXPLOITED THIS REASON OF DOWRY THREAT, to justify his murdering actions, though he was never threatened with dowry allegations, and all you men supporting it are foolish enough to believe that he was stating the truth. But I guess you will never understand. All of you who think like KKP and support this action of Amit, of murdering his wife, as being justifiable on crappy reasons like fear of dowry allegation, shame on you. Imagine supporting an act like MURDER, as being justifiable, good luck to you.

    Rinku was not one of those women to use false allegations on dowry, she had her self respect and integrity, and would not stoop to that, and neither would her family. Its for you to see that its been a month since her death and we have done nothing of that sort to put Amit or her parents in trouble. I am Rinkus Bro in Law.

    And also KKP you said for Amit “People will never have the willingness and time to peep into your innocent emotional heart, all what it wanted was love in return from his own wife.” ——I couldn’t believe that men like you still exist in this world and I was mad as hell after reading that, felt like if you were near me I would shake you hard to wake you up from this dream world of yours.

    But then I remembered, its because of these kind of statements being made by men like you, that the Government still has the laws of divorce/dowry in place to protect women. So I guess you are making noise only cause you too are one of those men who will abuse women in the future or you are already living that life of abuse. Good luck to you.

    And for all who care pls visit the following site dedicated to Rinkus :

    http://sachiniti.wordpress.com/2008/03/25/the-rinku-sachdeva-i-knew/

  5. Sunny Says:

    Ha ha ha …I just read the comments by this Ankush ‘guy’.
    Seems like this Ankush is a frustated feminist loser #$%&*

    Hi Ankush baby !! where do u live, lets have a 101 ….

  6. Ankush Says:

    Sunny Shit Pants…….. yup waiting for your 101…….comments. That’s if you have any to add, rather than talk about where I stay and the rest of the blabber you typed. Where do you stay you joker???? I think you might be living in a rat hole if I am not mistaken, may be you wake up after a couple of years look at your self, scratch you ass and go back to sleep. Ha Ha at your ass jerk weed.

  7. Balagopal Says:

    Interesting Comments.

    Ankush, I think you are failing to see how these laws affect innocent men and their families. Amit is not the only case, many many harried men have to resort to suicide because of these laws. When you say that “you know for a fact” … well, that keeps us wondering how can you be so sure about this ?

    You would agree that you have double standards. On one hand you say that it is ok for men to suffer because of the misdeeds of previous generations of men. At the same time, you also say that Rinku should not have suffered because even though other women misuse the dowry laws, she would not have done it !! So, its ok for men to suffer for other’s misdeeds but it is not ok for Rinku to suffer because of others misdeeds !! That is pretty partial. Won’t you say ?

    My stand is that the PERSON (and not the class of people) who commit crimes should be punished. Justice should apply on for an individual level, not just on a class level.

    B

  8. Ankush Says:

    Balagopal

    I agree with your comments to some extent. The reason I say “I know for a fact” about this issue is cause Rinku is my Sis in Law and we did discuss everything relating to her marital problems, and I was aware of almost every discussion and argument that transpired in that household.

    I do agree with your stand that “PERSON (and not the class of people) who commit crimes should be punished under 498A anti dowry”. Which basically means that laws of using Anti- Dowry under 498A should not be open ended as they are. They should be modified to say that if a,b, and c conditions are satisfied then the female can use the law for protection. But there could be some issues with that approach as then that the burden of proof to satisfy a,b and c conditions will rest on the female and that would be tough ask. I guess this issue does need a more legal review rather than us thinking which side is to blame.

    However when Amit took shelter under the law to commit murder on basis of “Intuition that his wife might use the law”( and he used the word Intuition in his suicide note), and you have idiots out here like KKP and Sunny and others trying to take his side, that’s just intolerable. These guys are nothing but animals, and that kinda pissed me off, and made me think that may be the laws are this open ended to protect women form such idiots.

    However Balagopal, I do agree with you on your views, as they are semi balanced and make sense. However in this case I will not spare any individual who tries to even hint at the fact that we would use shelter under ant dowry to create trouble. That’s just plain shitty, and then to side with a murderer, that just barbaric to say the least.

    Regards

    Ankush

  9. Ankush Says:

    Balagopal here are some comments I read on Rakshakfoundation.org relating to thsi issue, they seem like good suggestions:

    The following are our suggestions regarding this issue, to prevent innocents from
    being harassed while delivering justice to true victims.

    1. Stringent punishments for abusers of law – Punishment for misusing this strict law should be equally stringent. Severe penalties must be imposed on all the complainants for false complaint under this law.

    2. The law should be made bailable compoundable and non cognizable, as has been recommended by multiple judges
    a. ‘The Malimath Committee’ on Reforms of Criminal Justice System, 2003 (Refer
    Para 16.4 Report)
    b. Delhi High Court Judgement R 462/2002, 19.05.2003, Savitri Devi Vs. Ramesh
    Chand and Ors.

    3. Time bound Trial should be made a statutory requirement. It is suggested
    that a 6 month maximum limit should be specified by the Law.

    4. No Arrests unless absolutely necessary – An arrest on a criminal charge
    has grave consequences – social, mental and financial, for the individual. Unless
    there is irrefutable evidence to suggest physical torture, no arrests should be made.

    5. The final decision of arrest should be taken by an Authority not less than the
    Superintendent of Police of the District who too should have general instructions to
    apply his mind judiciously in each individual case on its merits and then pass
    suitable order(s) in writing.

    6. Exclude arrests of Senior citizens, minors (children below the age of 18),
    pregnant women and people requiring medical attention.

    7. No provision for including extended family members in the
    complaint without prima facie evidence.

    8. A thorough Investigation shoud be conducted and the accused
    should not be presumed guilty – The cardinal principle of criminal liability
    which is in vogue and prevalent the world over all through. The accused must be
    presumed to be innocent unless proved guilty by the cogent and reliable evidence
    beyond all reasonable and probable doubts.

    9. Gender Neutrality – All laws should endeavor to punish the guilty and protect
    the innocent, irrespective of the gender. We stress that the gender specific words
    like “husband” and “wife” be replaced by gender-neutral words like “spouse”.

    10. Mechanism for post-implementation evaluation – Section 498A IPC
    was enacted in 1983 i.e. 23 years ago. No post-implementation feedback is available
    with the government to show whether the Section 498A IPC has in fact been
    successful in its proposed intent.

  10. UnFairLife Says:

    Ankush,

    Rinku was your sis in law ? well, I have my doubts about it, but even assuming that what you are saying it true, I find it very disgusting that you kept track of everything that went in their household. How will the trust between husband and wife develop if the wife’s family keeps on interfering and insists on knowing every little detail of their life.

    I would be pretty mad if my wife told everything about our relationship to her family. That would be a huge breach of trust !

  11. Ankush Says:

    UnFairLife

    She was MURDERED by her so called husband in the most brutal manner, and you are concerned about the fact that she confided in me and her sis?? Dude she got MURDERED by that jerk. I guess she did not talk to us enough, as we could not see this monstrous side of his. And again breaking the trust of a MURDRER, ARE YOU FRE___ out of your mind when you wrote the previous comment. You said “I find it very disgusting that you kept track of everything that went in their household. How will the trust between husband and wife develop if the wife’s family keeps on interfering and insists on knowing every little detail of their life”………………………..He is not a her Husband, don’t Frea___ say that again. He is a Frea____ Ass as far as I am concerned. And KUKU HEAD we gave her a listening ear as she was going through a tough time FOR THE PAST YEAR (does year mean anything to you), we are her family, we are not Frea___ interfering in her life, we are giving her support in her time of need.

    We did not propone any hateful sentiments towards him, we gave her direction on how to resolve her martial discord, AND ONLY WHEN SHE ASKED FOR DIRECTION. On the contrary we helped her adjust to his difficult personality time and again, we were in many occasions surprised at the level of sacrifice she was willing to undertake for him & his family, but we never said anything to her on it.

    I was surprised that she could take all that was happening in her life and still have a positive demeanor, and never did I hear her utter one word of disrespect for him. I learnt a thing or two from her on how to lead life with dignity. Dude till her last days she went to the Gurudwara and gave charity in his name every week to ask for help from god to help her make her marriage successful. I got to know this after her death, I WANTED to FREA____ break that Ass of a Husband’s _____, shame on that PRICK.

    Do you forget the fact that she was staying with her parents for the past 28 years before she got married to this JOKER. And you consider her talking to us inappropriate, You find it disgusting that she called me up to ask for advice on how to deal with her Martial discord, are you a stupid, I am her Bor In Law, I have the best interest at heart for her.

    And I spoke with dignity with that ASS OF A HUSBAND OF HERS, till her last days….Always gave him respect, in spite of knowing what a Prick he was…. And you are worried about the TRUST, go shower your trust on a guy who commits MURDER, you piece of crap.

    Need further details go to following site and read comment #78 and #100.
    http://sachiniti.wordpress.com/2008/03/25/the-rinku-sachdeva-i-knew/

  12. UnFairLife Says:

    Ankush,

    I don’t know how much wisdom you have accumulated in your stay on this planet, but let me tell you a few things.

    1. Wife’s family has a tendency to be over-sympathetic towards her. It is not unusual for girls to spice up the stories a little bit, to gain sympathy.

    2. Won’t you agree that since she is from your family, you might be a wee bit biased in her favor ?

    3. He was not a murderer when the problems were happening.

    4. Only the husband and the wife know the details of their relationship. Many times, you may feel that one of them should leave the other, but the emotional bonds are hard to undo. People do a lot of illogical things in their relationships.

    5. Since, you have abused me in your comments, while I was only expressing my opinion, it clearly shows how you can handle disagreeements. I find you quite immature.

    6. Last and foremost – in marital disputes, family has the best intentions .. but is the worst advisor. In marital disputes, keep family away.

  13. ASJRJ - Ank Says:

    UnfairLife,

    Your comment “I don’t know how much wisdom you have accumulated in your stay on this planet, but let me tell you a few things. “>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

    Wisdom is a state of mind and honestly I think I have accumulated enough to stand on my own feet and face the world, and collection of wisdom depends on circumstances/issues that you get exposed to in your personal and professional life. So you may question my wisdom collection (accumulation as you have stated), but it’s to no avail, has no meaning. You could tell me a thing or two through your accumulated wisdom and so could I and this could go on back and forth for as long as need be, SO POINT BEING???I guess nothing, as comparing our wisdom has nothing to do with this conversation, does it??? Now your comments:

    1. Wife’s family has a tendency to be over-sympathetic towards her. It is not unusual for girls to spice up the stories a little bit, to gain sympathy.
    The statement borders on the line of being a view of a Male Chauvinist Pig (MCP going forward). The trait of being over sympathetic is not just restricted to WIFES FAMILY. Sympathy -gender neutrality makes more sense, it has nothing to do with WIFES FAMILY. This comment could be easily turned around and we could replace the word ‘Wife’s Family” with “Husbands Family”. My comment, grow up man, or may be dabble back into your wisdom collection and come up with something better.

    2. Won’t you agree that since she is from your family, you might be a wee bit biased in her favor?
    Weeeeeeeeee Bit Biased, hey I am totally biased and in her favor. I am all over the board in her favor if you wanna bring that issue up. Point being what. Do you want me to be neutral on the issue of MURDER OF MY SISTER, kinda expecting me to be SUPERHUMAN, aren’t you. But in all honesty and trying to dabble into my wisdom collection, I think if someone MURDERS MY SIS IN LAW, and the fact that I know almost everything about the issue, and me not taking the MURDRERS SIDE, if that makes me look biased so BE IT. Again HE KILLED HER, so hey KUDOS to me and my wisdom for not standing by a MURDRER.

    3. He was not a murderer when the problems were happening.
    OKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK, so he was not a murderer when the problems were happening. I think a person becomes a MURDRER only after he has COMMITTED THE CRIME (Wow that neede some wisdom, to come to that conclusion). SO NOW HE HAS COMMITED THE CRIME and he is a MURDRER. So MR WISDOM HEAD, what’s your point. Is he excusable because he had not committed murder when the problems were happening. What’s you point BUDDY, are we again bordering on the angle of being an MCP. Well may be, my wisdom collection seems to say so.

    4. Only the husband and the wife know the details of their relationship. Many times, you may feel that one of them should leave the other, but the emotional bonds are hard to undo. People do a lot of illogical things in their relationships.
    All right point well taken, but again I have an issue with you on this comments ‘People do a lot of illogical things in their relationships’. Honestly BUD, I wish this on no one else, but if ILLOGICAL THINGS in relationship include MURDERING YOUR WIFE on some reason, what could I possibly say to that statement of yours???? All I can say is that I am STUMPED and disgusted that you are trying to justify his action with a lame Ass excuse as that. Please don’t go there.

    5. Since, you have abused me in your comments, while I was only expressing my opinion, it clearly shows how you can handle disagreements. I find you quite immature.
    Ok I apologize for my behavior. Touché on winning that argument. Your wisdom collection on that issue is correct, I should sober down. Its been kinda difficult trying to handle the issue of my sis-in-laws murder with MATURITY. I will try hard to achieve that.

    6. Last and foremost – in marital disputes, family has the best intentions .. but is the worst advisor. In marital disputes, keep family away.
    Ok BUDDY, Nice hearing your comments about how FAMILY IS THE WORST ADVISOR. Time to go to the Crapper on that issue and Flush it down. I hope I was not too rude.

  14. BeABeliever Says:

    Wow ! What a discussion ! I can see both sides of the coin. If Ankush is indeed a family member of Rinku, he deserves all the sympathy. This is not to say that women don’t misuse the laws. They certainly do. and I think Ankush agrees with that. So, what is the bone of contention again ?

    BaB

  15. SeaLion Says:

    It “is” women and their WHORE mothers who incite their MEAN, SELFISH, mini whore daughters to misuse the laws for monetary gains. A good method for beggers to become rich overnight.

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