The Domestic Violence Act of India – The death blow to harmonious marriages

Nowadays, marriages are tough. It takes a lot of love, understanding and patience to make a marriage work. Marriages are based on trust. Once the trust is broken, it is extremely hard to make the marriage work.

The Domestic violence Act Of India, under the garb of “women welfare and protection” is an attempt to create a society where men are robbed of all their rights. The law makes it very easy to escalate the domestic problems in daily life to such a level that it eventually leads to a breakdown in marriage. 

From time to time, differences arise in marriages. Two people who love each other and are in general happy with each other, sometimes behave in a hurtful way. This is true for both the men and the women. Sometimes, in the heat of the moment, people do mistakes and regret it later.

 This law makes it impossible for a woman to rectify her mistake. By making such a one sided extreme law, women will be tempted to use it against their husbands. The law lends itself to such easy misuse that women, on the strength of this law will try to teach a lesson to their husbands by filing frivolous and false cases. The husband will always feel the heat and feel threatened by his wife.

The fact is that if anyone feels cornered and threatened in a marriage, its the beginning of the end. The Domestic Violence Bill of India does exactly that. It gives sweeping powers to females and takes away all the rights of men. It imposes a lot of repsonsibiity on men, without giving them anything in return. For the women, it gives lots of rights without asking them to be responsible.

This is gender bias at its worst. It victimizes men and the law has been so poorly drafted that it will get blatantly misused. Many innocent men will suffer because of this law. 

 I have the following questions for the Govt of India

1. Why is there no protection for men from domestic violence ? If you say that not many cases occur, then do you have any statistics ? And regardless, if a man suffers domestic violence, shouldnt the law protect him as well ?

2. DO you think women are capable of violence ?  [ Just today, there was a news item that a woman killed her husband to get his property so that she can live with her lover]. Since it is well proven that women are capable of violence, shouldn’t the man be protected as well ?

3. So, according to the law, if a man insults a woman, he can be jailed for a year. So, it is domestic violence if a man insults a woman. How about if a woman insults a woman ? Is not necessary to protect a woman from another woman? Also, is it not domestic violence if a woman insults a man ?

4. According to the law, if a woman asks for money from a man and if the man is not able to provide it, then the woman can get the man jailed. However, the law prevents the man from asking for money from the woman. Isn’t this economic abuse of the men ? If a woman uses this law to blackmail and extort money from her husband, what protection does a husband have ?

5. My wife says that if I dont kick my parents out of the house, she will file a domestic violence case against me. What protection do I have under this law ?

6. My wife says that if I do not transfer all my property to her name, then I am economically abusing her and she will file a domestic violence case against me. What protection do I have under the law ?

7. My wife is having an affair and she threatens that if I try to prevent her from meeting her lover, then she says that she will use the domestic violence law against me, as according to the law, I am preventing her from meeting a person. I do not want a divorce because I have small children and I do not want them to suffer. Please tell me what should I do ?

8. My wife wants to go a 5 star hotel every day for dinner. When I object, she says that I am not providing her food and hence she will file the domestic violence case against me. I have tried to reason with her, but she is not willing to budge. Please tell me what should I do ?

9. This law gives tremendous rights to women and a lot of reponsibilities to man. What responsibilities or liabilities do women have under this law ?

10. DO you realize that there is generally some amount of friction in most marriages and by giving such absolute power to women, you are victimizing men. The results are going to be more divorces in which vindictive women will frame false cases on men, take away their property and put them in jail. Many many children will grow up in broken up families and will suffer. Ms. Minister, is this your idea of women and chilren welfare ?

11. Due to the poor drafting of this law, this law will be misused heavily and many many innocent men will go to jail and their lives will be destroyed. Do you have any message for them ?

12. Is there a provision that a woman who misuses the law will be punished as severely as a man is punished ?

13. You say that why will a woman file a case if she is happy in the marriage. In other words you are saying, that the man is at the mercy of the woman. If she is not happy for any reason, she can teach a lesson to her husband by filing a false case, reagardless of whether any violence occured or not. Where is the justice here ?

14. DO you think that men are second class citizens ? If not, then why have they not been given any rights in this law. Are you planning to release a similar law for men ? If you are not because you are the minister for women welfare, then is there a minister for men welfare ?

15. Do you know if any other country has a domestic violence law, in which only the woman can file a case on man, if she is abused, but the man can not file a case on woman if he is abused ?

16. Do you think this law will promote domestic harmony in the society ? DOnt you think that husband will be victimized by the wife who can use these threats to get her way ?

It takes a man as well as a woman to make a marriage work. Such nasty one sided laws will only promote marital discord and will lead to more divorces, where men will be victimized and destroyed.  But then, alas, the people who are trying to make this law are women who do not have a good family life. Most of them are either unmarried or divorced, so they do not realize what it takes to make a happy family. And they are tyring to destroy the happy families of others as well.

Eventually, the children suffer – both boys and girls. They will grow up in a fatherless world and there will be no MAN in their life to help them build the strength of their character and to teach them to take responsibility and take care of families.


7 Responses to “The Domestic Violence Act of India – The death blow to harmonious marriages”

  1. aluchaat Says:

    ooooooooohhhhhhhhh my heart bleeds for you poor people. I am sure you guys would want clemency to be shown to Santosh Singh also…

    Editor – No, I dont want any clemency to be show to Santosh Singh. A crime is a crime and rape is definitely a horrible crime.  My position is that guilty should be punished and no innocent should be live under the threat of a false case.  Any person who misuses the law to his/her own benefit should be punished as stringently as a person who is guilty of a crime. I stand for justice. Do you ?

  2. S Dev Sharma Says:

    Hello, If the author of this excellent analysis would like to publish as an op-ed article in a major Indian newspaper, may he/she please write to

  3. Swarup Sarkar Says:

    Cheating and fooling the Indian Women for Vote bank!!!
    Sub: Cheating and fooling the Indian Women for Vote bank!!!

    Please read the interview of Renuka Chowdhury(link here).

    If any LAW maker does not have the sufficient knowledge, then why they make such a stupid LAW??

    The question is unanswered, what punishment you will recommended, when a dishonest daughter in law ( Modern Supnakhas ) , abuse our mother and sister ??
    More at :

  4. vaghela s v Says:

    First Domestic violence case at Satara agaist NRI.

    My ex filed a case agaist me as per new DV LAW claiming she was harrased in UK and NZ from 2002.Judge I guess CJM ordered some kind of exparty order for custody of childern and interim some ordre.I havent received any formal notification about the case but we gathered info from reliable thirrd party source

    This raise serious questions about integrity of CJM court at satara
    1.No formal notice was sent for me to appear
    2.lack of juridicrption
    alleged DV ahppend outside Republic of India and DV law however badly drfated not applicable outside India

    do smaller court in india take money to give interim order?
    If I want to complain agaist judge who do I write to?

    THis is clearly a fake case and aim to defame,get money and immigration benefits.She is from so claled pseudo-wellknowen family form creamy backward class family!

  5. K.Mallikarjunaiah Says:

    I got married in April-2007, and having one child my in lasw are not ready to sent my family, they are blackmailing me, Regarding dowry harrssemt and etdc

  6. Ram Says:

    I got married in 1997and Iam a computer science graduate . I took my wife to us and also trained her in software and gave her job in my same company . But her realtionships went bad with me .After gaetting green card , we came back to India in 2003 .After coming back she stsrted demanding all the prperty in my name as well my parents name to be chnaged to her name . I have two daughters . My daughter were being totally brought up only by servant maids . My servant maids have observed and ready to give witness of all the attocities noticed .
    On july 5 I wrote a letter to commsioner of Polce that she is threatening with false accusaction cases and balckmailing that she would commit suicide . The ACP had convened a meeting . But that night she as well her parents bet me up and assulated me badly subsequently I filed an FIR . I was battered and thrown out of the house with all my personal belongings and was in streets for two weeks .
    In teh maenwhile she also took away my cash from the joint accounts in the Bank . So I approached layer who sent a legal notice to her and also asked her to vacate the house since th e house was my own . She also locked the house with 7 new keys and when i informed that inspector , he called on her who siad that I should not get inside my own house .

    Now she has put a false accusation case of Domestic violence with points saying I am womeninser , drunked , forced her beaten her and many more . She has taken a certificate from one of teh servat maids that I have hit her .

    But I have the affidavit of a servant who has been in the house of a very long time and has highlighted the torures she has committed on me .

    Can i have your expert legal advice pl advice on the strenghts om case and waht more steps should I take to win the case

  7. Deepu Says:

    juct check this link & please guide how to proceed now.

    we are first victim .

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